10 Questions to Ask When Interviewing a Doula and How to Interpret the Answers

As you prepare for one of the biggest moments of your life, do you ever feel the weight of each decision settling in, making it all feel even more real?  

You want to feel safe, heard, and fully supported when the time comes—but how do you know who will be by your side, holding space for you through every contraction, every breath, and every wave of emotion? 

Choosing a doula isn’t just about credentials or experience. It’s about connection. The right doula will bring a sense of calm to the unknown, remind you of your strength when doubt creeps in, and advocate for the birth experience you want—whether that’s in the quiet of your home or within the walls of a hospital room. 

But how do you find someone who truly aligns with you? The questions you ask during an interview can reveal so much about a doula’s approach, philosophy, and whether they are the reassuring presence you need.  

In this article, we’ll share 10 thoughtful questions to guide your search, along with insight on how to interpret the answers with confidence. 

Find the Best Doula with the Right Questions 

Choosing a doula is a deeply personal decision that impacts your birth journey. You’re inviting someone into one of the most intimate moments of your life, so it’s important to find a doula who feels like the right fit—someone who listens, respects your choices, and offers the support you need. 

A good conversation can reveal whether they are the reassuring presence you’re looking for. 

Here are ten essential questions to ask—and what to look for in their answers. 

1. What is your experience as a doula? 

Every doula brings a unique background to their work. Some have attended hundreds of births, while others are newer but deeply passionate and well-trained. 

Ask about their training, certifications, and how many births they’ve supported. Experience in settings similar to your planned birth—whether at home, a birth center, or a hospital—can provide added confidence. 

Look for someone who answers with confidence and warmth. Their response should reflect both knowledge and a deep respect for birth. 

2. What is your birth philosophy and approach to support? 

Birth is personal, and every doula has their own approach. Some focus on physical techniques, like positioning and massage, while others offer more emotional support and encouragement. Many doulas provide a mix of both. 

Their philosophy should align with your vision. If you’re planning a hands-off, undisturbed home birth, a doula who prefers active coaching might not be the best fit. Likewise, if you’re seeking continuous guidance and reassurance, you’ll want someone who naturally offers that. 

A good doula will honor your choices without pushing their own agenda. 

3. How do you collaborate with medical providers and partners? 

Doulas are not medical professionals, but they play an essential role in your birth team. The best doulas work with your providers—not against them. 

Ask how they interact with doctors, midwives, and nurses. Do they focus on creating a positive, team-based environment? How do they help you advocate for yourself without creating tension? 

If you have a partner or support person, find out how they involve them. A great doula won’t take over but will empower your partner to be as engaged as they want to be. 

4. What comfort techniques do you use during labor? 

Doulas have a toolbox full of comfort measures, from massage and counterpressure to breathing techniques and guided relaxation. Some specialize in using essential oils, acupressure, or rebozo techniques. 

The best doulas tailor their approach to what works for you.  

If you already know certain techniques you’d like to try, ask how they incorporate them into their support. If you’re unsure, look for a doula who is flexible and ready to offer different options based on what feels best in the moment. 

5. How do you handle unexpected changes or complications? 

Birth is unpredictable. Even with the best planning, things can shift quickly. 

A great doula remains steady in the face of change. Ask about times they’ve had to adjust to unexpected circumstances. How do they support families when plans change? Do they stay calm and focused? 

Listen for answers that show adaptability and a deep commitment to keeping you feeling supported no matter what happens. 

6. What is your availability, and do you have a backup doula? 

Labor doesn’t follow a schedule, so your doula’s availability matters. Ask about their on-call schedule and when they’ll be ready to support you. 

A reliable backup plan is also essential. Even the best doulas can have emergencies. A good answer should reassure you that if your doula can’t be there, you’ll still have trusted support. 

7. What’s included in your doula services and pricing? 

Doulas offer a range of services, so it’s important to know exactly what’s included in their package. Some provide prenatal visits, continuous labor support, and postpartum follow-ups, while others offer additional services like childbirth education or placenta encapsulation. 

Ask about pricing, payment plans, and whether they offer sliding-scale fees if cost is a concern. Transparency is key—you should feel clear about what you’re receiving and how it aligns with your needs. 

8. How do you provide support in the postpartum period? 

Your doula’s role doesn’t have to end when the baby arrives. Some offer postpartum check-ins to help with breastfeeding, newborn care, or emotional recovery. Others specialize in postpartum doula services, which include more hands-on support in the weeks after birth. 

If postpartum care is important to you, make sure their approach fits your expectations. 

9. Can you share client testimonials or references? 

One of the best ways to gauge a doula’s impact is through the words of families they’ve supported. 

Ask if they have testimonials or references from past clients. A doula who lights up when talking about their experiences is often one who deeply loves what they do. 

If they provide references, consider reaching out to hear firsthand how they made a difference. 

10. What makes you the right doula for me? 

This open-ended question gives the doula a chance to speak from the heart. It’s an opportunity to hear why they do this work and how they connect with the families they support. 

Pay attention to how they frame their answer. Do they seem genuinely interested in you—your hopes, your concerns, your birth goals? The best doulas aren’t just about credentials; they’re about connection. 

Trust your instincts. If you feel at ease, heard, and respected, you’ve likely found a great match. 

Make the Right Choice for Your Birth Experience with Stork Helpers 

Finding the right doula is about more than just asking the right questions—it’s about how their answers make you feel. You deserve a birth team that uplifts you, respects your choices, and helps you step into birth with confidence. 

At Stork Helpers, we believe in supporting mamas through every step of their journey with compassionate care that meets you where you are.  

If you're ready to find a doula who truly listens and stands by your side, explore our doula services to see how we can support your birth. You can also check our availability to find the best time to connect.  

We’d love to be part of your birth story!